When you argue, take a break and listen!
An argument can divide anything if it is given importance. The constant state of unrest that we consider normal … that only everyone quarrels today even with the most mundane things, is so harmful. Embraced by the desire to express our authority, to make the other person next to us do what we want, we forget that there is a wonderful God and we grieve Him so much in those moments.
Opportunities for quarrel exist at every step. People are willing to quarrel in the family, in the circles of people they hang out with, or even quarrel with people they have never met before. As “the mouth speaks of the abundance of the heart” when we do not trust God, so new “opportunities” of contradiction will always appear.
The quarrel became for many a fun, a way to diversify things, to get rid of the daily monotony. Even between two people who love each other we will hear quarrels. The quarrel is everywhere and you don’t feel like shutting up until you have said everything you have to say, even if you know that this is how you will hurt the one next to you. The quarrel cannot disappear for some of us, because they feed on the quarrel … I have so much sadness in my soul when I say this!
Next time you have a chance to argue, try to shut up. Try to stay away from that outbreak of evil and respond kindly. Try to listen and not let the harsh words reach you, not to influence you in any way. Ask God to teach you what to do. The quarrel divides precisely because we no longer know what it means to leave us, but we want everything to be the way we want it … without even thinking about the fact that what we want is far from right . Without thinking that God’s plan is more important than any dispute!
