Maybe he wasn’t ready to meet you …
Maybe your timing wasn’t the happiest … you were ready to meet someone to dedicate yourself to and give all the love you had … but he was far from willing to give you in return what you would have deserved … so he let you love him until he realized how much it means to you, when he decided to get out of your life … and he let it hit your head without giving you any explanation … except it’s not your fault …
I’ve heard of this type of man a few times. And I used to get annoyed, because I found this expression as just a way to easily get out of an unpleasant situation and that they were lying shamelessly … but now I think they are right. Men see things differently than women and most of the time they choose to refuse to mature, to refuse to love and give. Should we feel sorry for them because they live in such a big lie and that they will wake up later that now the person who loved them so much now is happy away? Shall we mourn them for realizing that they realized so late that they loved, but that they chose to run away then …?
We all have a point of view about relationships … and this point of view is clearly related to experience. If he has been hurt by someone before you, if he has not yet learned to offer, if they have never had a stable relationship until they meet you, if he has never made a commitment, it is very difficult to see what are the advantages of sharing life with someone. Maybe he has already made a million conceptions, which tell him that his freedom will be taken once a serious relationship begins.
You can’t force anyone to build their lives so that they make you happy if they don’t want to. You have to let him find out what it really means to love someone and be loved back. He still wants to have fun and most likely does not realize that in a relationship everything can be twice as fun. You can only be with such a man yourself. If it is not enough, you will not be able to change it forever. And you don’t even have to! If the timing was bad, it was most likely because he’s not the man you have to stay with. Rest assured, sooner or later true love will come out.
