Why You Can’t Be “Just Friends” With Your Ex
4 Reasons Why It’s A Bad Idea To Be Close Friends With Your Ex After A Breakup
1. It Will Hurt Like Relaxer On A Freshly Washed Scalp
No matter how strong you think you are, a breakup will always bring pain. It takes time to heal and grieve, just like anyone else. When you’ve just lost someone you loved, either because it ended from their side or yours, trying to stay close friends right after the breakup will hurt you more than necessary. Allow yourself some time and space to mend. Your heart deserves it.
2. It’ll Make It Harder For You Both To Move On
Even if you both agreed to the breakup, moving on is never easy. Forcing yourselves to stay friends will only make it tougher to leave the past behind. This situation becomes even more painful if one of you didn’t truly want the relationship to end. Clinging to friendship in this scenario makes letting go much harder.
3. It’ll Annoy Your New Partner
Your new partner probably won’t be thrilled if you’re still friends with your ex. Before you say, “They’ll just have to deal with it,” take a moment and put yourself in their shoes. How would you feel if the roles were reversed? Likely, it wouldn’t sit well with you either. It’s best to let the past stay in the past for the sake of your new relationship.
4. It’s Just Unnecessary
The world is full of wonderful people you can befriend. By focusing on the past and staying friends with your ex, you’re missing out on opportunities to meet new people. Moving on isn’t easy, but it’s doable and worthwhile. Put the past behind you, and step into the future. Trust us, you can do it, and we believe in you.
