One Good Story
This morning, a seemingly ordinary routine unfolded with extraordinary intent. As my 10-year-old daughter walked to school, I followed discreetly behind her. This was not a usual day, nor was it a punishment without reason. It was a lesson in respect, responsibility, and understanding authority. While some onlookers questioned my actions and others judged silently, the purpose was clear and necessary.
Why did I choose this method of teaching? My daughter had recently shown a disregard for how to treat adults, a behavior I found unacceptable and in need of immediate correction. She had begun to mistake her growing independence as a sign that she could dismiss authority based on her own perceptions and whims. This is a dangerous notion for a child to develop, one that could adversely affect her ability to interact respectfully with others as she grows.
In response, I decided that she needed to experience the consequences of her actions in a safe, controlled way. Walking to school was not a punishment but an opportunity for reflection. It was a moment for her to contemplate her behavior, the importance of respect, and the role of authority. By making her walk to school, I was not just sending a message about discipline; I was teaching her a vital life lesson about appreciation and respect.
I am fully aware that this approach might be seen as harsh by some. Our current culture often emphasizes the importance of being a child’s friend, fearing that discipline might damage the child’s emotions or self-esteem. However, I believe that as a parent, my role is not to be her friend but her guide. I am tasked with the responsibility of helping her navigate the complexities of life, ensuring she grows into a person who respects others and herself.
The truth is, while my daughter might be upset with me for a while, this is a temporary discomfort that pales in comparison to the potential lifelong consequences of growing up without understanding the value of respect and authority. I am more afraid of raising a child who feels entitled and lacks empathy—traits that are far more detrimental than a few moments of being upset.
Parenting is not about always being liked by our children. It’s about making the hard choices that prepare them for the real world. It’s about ensuring that they grow up to be individuals others can respect and rely on—people who are friends worth having. This morning’s walk to school was a step towards that goal.
I followed her to ensure her safety, to show that even when discipline is necessary, my love and care are unwavering. I watched as she walked, reflecting on the lessons this day might instill in her. It’s a challenging balance to strike, being firm yet loving, but it is essential for her growth.
As parents, we must not shy away from teaching tough lessons. The world indeed needs more kindness and understanding, but it also requires respect and appreciation for others. These lessons start at home and they often start with moments like these—simple yet profound.
In sharing this story, I hope to encourage other parents who might be struggling with the fine line between discipline and care. Know that you are not alone in your efforts to raise thoughtful, respectful children who will go on to leave a positive mark on the world. Sometimes, love means teaching the hard lessons, and sometimes, it means watching them walk, knowing that each step takes them closer to becoming the person they are meant to be.
