Imagine being shamed and excluded, not by strangers but by family. Now, imagine your spouse choosing to support that exclusion rather than standing by you. That’s exactly what happened to Chantal, and she turned to us for advice.

The Backstory

Chantal and her husband were all set to attend his cousin’s wedding. It was to be a grand family affair, and naturally, both were invited. But three days before the ceremony, Chantal’s husband received a call that flipped their plans upside down.

Chantal’s husband’s cousin had requested him not to bring her. And guess what? He agreed. Yep, without hesitation, he chose to go solo to the wedding, leaving his wife feeling rejected and alone.

The News That Shook Chantal

When Chantal’s husband broke the news, she was obviously devastated. She had one question, “Where’s your pride? Stand up for your wife!”

He stared at her with an unreadable expression, then smirked and said, “I’ll go alone. You were uninvited because the groom is your ex-fiancé. My cousin just found out and feels uncomfortable having you there.”

Let that sink in. Because Chantal’s old flame, someone long buried in her past, was now related to this wedding, she was being cut out of it. Worse still, her husband had chosen to go along with it.

Chantal’s Dilemma: To Forgive or Not

Understandably, Chantal was left dumbfounded. “I was engaged many years before meeting my husband, and we never bring up my ex since he’s part of the past. I still think the decision to uninvite me is extremely rude, and my husband should defend me instead of planning to attend. It’s not my fault his cousin is marrying my ex. I didn’t do anything wrong here.”

What’s happening here is grossly unfair. Stand up for your wife, right? Isn’t that what a partnership is about? Yet her husband chose the path of least resistance.

So, what do you think? Should Chantal forgive her husband for his lack of support? Or is it time to reevaluate the kind of partnership they have?