What does it mean to love someone? Does it mean butterflies in the stomach at every meeting? Does it mean doing certain things? Does it mean to have a certain ritual? Does it mean quarrels to have peace? Does it mean to be with the person we love 24 hours a day? What does this actually mean? Can we give a definition of love? Does our heart have to beat in a certain way? Do we really have to do what we see in the heroes of romantic movies doing? And if we’re different, what doesn’t work? Does that mean we don’t love?

I don’t know what love means … and I did it by asking my partner if she loves me. He told me that if I give him a concrete definition of the verb “to love,” he will tell me whether it is so or not. I could almost beat him when I heard him. It’s funny that we like to hear beautiful words to confirm our love, although the facts are much more and clearer than the words. That’s when I realized that I didn’t really have the slightest idea how to explain love in words, but I’m more than sure that it exists and that I have it.

No relationship is like another. The fact that we do not have those reasons for reconciling fireworks is not a bad thing. After a while we may live in the same house with the person we have chosen for the rest of our lives. Maybe then we won’t go out on meetings anymore and maybe we won’t feel the same butterflies as at the beginning. Maybe we’ll have moments when we like to be in another room. Maybe at some point we won’t have anything to say and we’ll just sit next to each other on the couch, each reading his book / magazine.

Silence may seem boring from the outside. But who cares what it looks like for others? There is no evil as long as the intentions of the heart are pure. There is no boredom because we have no reason to reconcile … because there was no quarrel from the beginning.

In the meantime, I learned the definition of love: “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life” (John 3:16). . God loved people so much that He gave His only begotten Son to save us. The only Son in whom He Himself existed. He loved us so much that He gave Himself for us. The essence of supreme love is concentrated in this phrase.

Did you give yourself to save others? That’s what love is. To sacrifice everything without asking … in fact without expecting anything in return. He sacrificed Himself for all of us, for people who willingly choose not to listen to Him. Do we love at least as little as He loves us?

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