We agreed my sister-in-law’s family could join our family trip โ only if they paid their own way. Then her husband quit his job and stopped looking for work. I assumed they wouldn’t come. But two weeks ago, my wife told me they’re still coming.
I remember blinking at her, waiting for the punchline. โComing where?โ I asked, even though I already knew. She gave me that apologetic smile, the one she uses when she knows sheโs about to ruin my day.
โTo the lake house, with us. All of us. Your parents, our kids, my sister, her husband, and their two boys. They said theyโve been really looking forward to it.โ
I set my coffee down, harder than I meant to. โThey canโt afford it. Thatโs why we agreed โ only if they pay their share.โ
She sat beside me and grabbed my hand. โI know. But theyโve had a hard year. And the kids have never been to the lake. Melissa says this could be the only chance they get for a long time.โ
Right. Because her husband, Todd, quit his perfectly fine job as a mechanic because he โwanted something more meaningful.โ That was three months ago. Since then, heโs been journaling and drinking craft beer in their backyard while the bills pile up.
โDid they pay for anything?โ I asked.
She hesitated. That was all the answer I needed.
So now, in addition to driving our family six hours to the lake, buying groceries for ten people, and organizing activities, I had to subsidize a free vacation for Todd and his family.
I didnโt blow up. I wanted to. But our two kids were in the other room, and we had promised ourselves we wouldnโt fight in front of them.
โLet me guess,โ I muttered. โWeโre just going to cover it and never say anything?โ
โTheyโll help where they can. Maybe Todd can grill, or watch the kids so we can have a night walk. Itโs just one week.โ
I leaned back, biting my tongue. I was already imagining Todd asking me if I brought extra beer.
Fast forward two weeks, weโre loading up the SUV, and Iโm triple-checking our cooler. My wife is in her usual โweโre going to be lateโ mode, zipping from room to room. Our boys are in the back, excited and already arguing over snacks.
Then a second car pulls up โ an older minivan with a busted headlight and a dented side. Melissa steps out with her two boys, and Todd, in a Hawaiian shirt and flip-flops, saunters out like heโs on the set of a beach movie.
โReady for paradise?โ he yells.
I offer a tight smile.
The drive is long and full of โAre we there yet?โs and at least two bathroom stops. But we make it. The lake house is beautiful โ calm water, tall trees, fresh air. Itโs the kind of place that makes your shoulders drop a little just by being there.
We unpack, and immediately, the dynamics start forming. My wife and her sister chat while watching the kids. I start organizing the kitchen, figuring out whoโs eating what. Todd plops himself on a lawn chair with a beer by 4 p.m.
โIโll take over dinner tomorrow,โ he says, without looking up from his phone. โGrill master at your service.โ
That night, after getting the kids to bed, I sit with my wife on the porch. I bring up money, again. โGroceries werenโt cheap. You said theyโd help.โ
โThey will. Justโฆ not with money.โ
The next few days blend into each other. Todd sleeps in, plays with the kids a little, disappears on solo kayak rides. Melissa helps a bit more โ dishes, putting sunscreen on the kids. My wife tries to keep the peace, but I know sheโs stressed.
I feel like Iโm carrying the weight of ten people. Planning meals. Cleaning up. Making sure the boat rentals are returned on time. I try not to snap, but every time I see Todd open a fresh beer he didnโt buy, I have to breathe deep.
On day four, it rains. Not a drizzle โ a full-on thunderstorm. Weโre stuck inside with bored kids and too many adults. The power goes out for three hours. The mood shifts. Todd, surprisingly, takes charge and starts a board game with the kids. Heโs actually good at it โ animated, patient, funny. I almost forget how mad I am.
That night, after the storm passes and the power returns, we eat leftovers by candlelight just for fun. Everyone laughs more than usual. For the first time that trip, I feel something close to contentment.
But then comes day five.
Weโre down by the dock when my wife gets a call. Itโs her mom. My father-in-law had a fall at home. Nothing too serious, but enough to shake us. She asks my wife to come back a day early to help.
She turns to me after the call. โCan you handle the rest of the trip? Just one night.โ
I nod. She kisses me and leaves with our car, promising to be back by lunchtime the next day.
Now Iโm in charge. Ten people. One car gone. A storm predicted for the evening. And I notice weโre out of milk, bread, and other essentials.
I ask Todd if he can drive to the small store down the road.
โMan,โ he says, stretching. โI was actually thinking of taking the kayak out again. Clears my head.โ
I just stare at him.
โUnless you really need me to,โ he adds.
โI do,โ I say. โWeโre out of stuff. Youโve got the minivan.โ
He sighs like Iโve asked him to rebuild the engine.
โAlright, alright. What do we need?โ
I hand him the list. He takes it without another word.
An hour passes. Then two. The sun starts dipping. I try calling. No answer. Melissa doesnโt know where he is. The kids are getting hungry, and Iโm regretting everything.
Finally, the minivan pulls up. He steps outโฆ empty-handed.
โStore was closed,โ he shrugs. โSome power issue. Sorry, man.โ
I look inside the van. There are no bags. No sign he even tried.
โDid you even go?โ I ask.
He freezes.
โI took a drive. I needed space. Is that a crime?โ
Melissa walks out just then, and she sees my face. โWhatโs going on?โ
I tell her. I donโt even sugarcoat it.
She turns to Todd, furious. โYou said you were getting groceries.โ
โI needed a break!โ he snaps. โIโm not a robot!โ
โYouโre not anything lately!โ she says, voice rising. โYou quit your job, you barely help at home, and now you canโt even get milk?โ
The kids are watching. I step between them. โLetโs not do this now.โ
But itโs too late. The air is heavy. Todd walks off, muttering. Melissa wipes her eyes and goes inside.
I end up making scrambled eggs and apples for dinner. The kids eat in silence.
That night, I find Todd outside, smoking by the dock. We donโt talk for a long time.
Finally, he says, โYou think Iโm a joke. I know.โ
โI think youโre lost,โ I reply. โBut yeah, Iโm tired of carrying all the weight.โ
He nods. โFair.โ
Then he says something that catches me off guard.
โIโve been depressed. Didnโt want to admit it. Thought if I quit my job and cleared my mind, something would click. But it didnโt. I just feelโฆ stuck.โ
I look at him. Heโs not defensive. Just tired.
โWhy didnโt you tell Melissa?โ I ask.
โDidnโt want to be the broken one. Didnโt want to disappoint her.โ
โThat shipโs sailed,โ I say, not unkindly.
He laughs a little.
โBut itโs not too late to fix it.โ
The next morning, he wakes up early. Makes pancakes. Real ones. Cleans the kitchen. Takes the kids fishing. Melissa watches, guarded.
When my wife returns that afternoon, sheโs surprised. โWhat happened?โ
โI think he finally saw the mirror,โ I whisper.
That evening, Todd gathers everyone and apologizes. To me, to Melissa, to the group. He thanks us for putting up with him. Says heโll be getting help when heโs back home โ therapy, maybe even a job again.
Itโs not perfect. But itโs something.
A week after the trip, he texts me a photo. Him in a mechanicโs uniform. Says heโs back at the shop part-time, easing into it. Heโs seeing a counselor too.
Sometimes, people need a storm to reset.
That trip cost more than I planned โ money, patience, nerves. But it gave me something too.
It reminded me that grace isnโt free, but itโs worth giving. That people stumble, but some do get back up โ if theyโre given a reason.
And maybe that reason is someone believing in them, even when itโs hard.
If youโve ever carried more than your share, youโre not alone. But sometimes, the ones you carry end up standing because you didnโt drop them.
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